For a wound to heal, you have to clean it out. Again, and again, and again. And this cleaning process stings. The cleaning of a wound hurts. Yes. Healing takes so much work. So much persistence. And so much patience. But every process has an end and an appointed term. Your healing will come, God willing. And like all created things, your worldly pain will die.
And to parents… it is your absolute responsibility, especially to your daughters, to compliment them. It’s not wrong of you to tell them ‘you are beautiful.’ You should tell them they’re beautiful. Because if they don’t hear that from you, they’re going to look to hear that from somebody else. Our girls have low self-esteem because nobody validates them — especially the fathers. The fathers, you have to go out of your way to compliment your daughters. And stop having the attitude that nothing they do is good enough. Stop talking down to them, it’s killing them. It’s killing them. In our deen we always talk about the rights of the parents, and they have rights. But they have responsibilities, too.
Being a woman in today’s world must be hard. So much is expected of you and everyone is on your case. Doomed if you work, and doomed if you stay home. Told how to dress, and it’s never good enough. It must be really tough! Remember, Allah created you perfectly and if you work on perfecting your relationship with Him, there lies your happiness.